Fragment of the book:
“Conversations with my Higher Self”
by Johnny Bardavid
In what other ways have you been sabotaging your marriage?
“Let me think. How I can explain this? Well, maybe it’s because my father was very authoritarian. He frequently manipulated my mother into submission with long periods of silence and indifference.”
And how did that affect you?
“I don’t know, maybe I just inherited the same behavior. I have been punishing my wife with silence and indifference. Many days go without my saying a word to her, as if she does not exist. I don’t do it on purpose; it just comes naturally to me.”
You are justifying yourself. Do you think you can’t be blamed because your father had such an attitude?
“I believe so.”
The alcoholic, the thief, the authoritarian, the arrogant, the scornful, cannot hide behind a smokescreen.
“What do you mean by that?”
You are deceiving yourself by thinking that you are not responsible for your behaviors because you inherited them.
“Yes, I think that’s so. We have it in our blood.”
Yes, those behaviors can be inherited or, more properly, adopted by contagion at home. However, those mental programs are always susceptible to change. You will learn more about this now that you are starting to observe and understand the universal law of attraction, which never fails, just like the law of gravity.
Violence, contempt, haughtiness in your voice, and aggression through silence are all manifestations of the agony of reason. You attract resentments, and as they accumulate, they destroy any relationship. You become your own worst enemy. You become the thief of your happiness and the main obstacle to your economic progress. Surely you have a similar attitude in your job.
“Yes, I’ve behaved like that with my two subordinates. And now that you mention this, I understand better how the law of attraction works. It cannot be changed or corrupted.
I have been attracting the negative attitudes and behaviors that I have been personally expressing at home and at work.
“Sometimes, when I have been angry, I’ve shouted at, insulted, and even violently pushed my wife. But, you know, she has also gotten upset frequently. She has underestimated my efforts, my job, my monthly income. She has constantly belittled me, and many times I’ve felt useless.”
Nobody can make you feel useless unless you accept that others are the architects of your destiny.
“You are right, Master Louis. I hadn’t thought about it that way.”
When you spoke to me about your subordinates’ behavior you used an excellent phrase: “The law of universal attraction can’t be changed or corrupted.” But immediately afterward, you were justifying yourself again.
Remember, when you point a finger at others, three other fingers point at you. From your point of view, you should always consider yourself responsible for all of your actions and everything that happens to you.
The easiest thing to do is to blame others for your failures or your behaviors, without noticing that in reality you are the cause of everything that happens to you.
“I still find that concept difficult to accept. In my dealings with others, they should be blamed sometimes.
I can’t understand how it is that I always have to take responsibility for what happens to me.”
Don’t pretend to carpet your life’s path. You’d better put on shoes!
“What do you mean by that?”
Don’t try to get help (put a rug) on your life’s path. Instead, you’d better put on shoes (learn to face and solve your problems).
“It is still not very clear to me.”
Don’t send to the psychologist everyone whom you have a conflict with. It is better to change your attitudes and the way you see life in general. This way it will be easier for you to find your own peace of mind and your own internal tranquility. These are invaluable for you. Nobody can take them away.
“Do you mean that I should analyze my attitudes and the ways in which I express myself before I go blaming others?
Are you implying that I should correct my mistakes first?”
Among many other things, yes! When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. You are always the master of your own destiny!
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